Javanese Wedding Ceremonial

Siraman: Cleanse yourself before a big “event”
Before starting the wedding ceremony, the bride does a shower of the word siram (bathing). This is intended to cleanse both brides before carrying out a sacred ceremony. There are seven people who will pour water on the bride and groom. Seven here in Javanese is “pitu” which is pitulungan (help) to the bride and groom.

Midodareni: A good night symbol to stay in touch
Gathering between the two big families namely the groom’s family visited the bride’s house. Midodareni night is held overnight before the wedding ceremony begins the next day. Midodareni night is considered a good night which is interpreted as the descent of angels.

Step on the Egg: Meaning of hope and symbol of loyalty
The egg is interpreted as the hope that the bride and groom have offspring which is a sign of love for both. After stepping on the egg, the bride will wash the groom’s feet which is a symbol of a wife’s loyalty to her husband.

Sikepan Sindur: A string of close and inseparable love
Sikepan Sindur is done after stepping on the egg which is stretching the cloth or sindur to the bride and groom by the mother and then walking towards the aisle. This section symbolizes the expectations of parents so that the bride and groom are always close because they are united. Father will guide the bride and groom by walking holding the sindur.

Lap: Share fair love
The bride and groom sit on the lap of the bride’s father. The bride sits next to the father’s and thigh’s left thigh on the right side of the father’s thigh. This part of the ceremony shows that someday the bride and groom will have offspring and are expected to share fair affection like the father. This section also means considering that there is no difference in love for children and daughter-in-law.

Kacar Kucur: A symbol of well-being in the household
The groom will pour a bag filled with grains, coins and yellow rice into a woman’s lap. This means that the duty of the husband is to make a living and the wife who manages it. This section is a symbol of well-being in the household.

Repetition: Help each other and get along well
There is also a procession section called Dahar Klimah or dulang-dulangan (bribery-feeding). The bride and groom will feed each other three times and this event has the hope that the bride and groom will always get along well and help each other in taking a new life as a family.

Sungkeman: Devoted to parents or elders
Sungkeman is proof or form of respect for parents and elders. Sungkeman is done to parents and passed on to other elders. This procession is something that is awaited by the bride and groom to get the blessing of parents to live a new life with their partner.

Yellow Janur: Hope gets good light
Surely we often hear yellow coconut milk. Where the yellow janur is the gate to enter the wedding reception. Janur “Jalarane Nur” which means that the marriage will get light or enlightenment for new households. Janur Kuning is also intended to mark events and get rid of unwanted things.

Twin twins: The meaning of every hope is good for the household later
A series of leaves, leaves and other ornaments and have different meanings. There is a coconut ornament formed by a keris, meaning the bride must be smart and careful and wise in living life. There are also bird ornaments that symbolize high motivation in living life.

Tarub: Prosperity and hope
A sign to indicate that the family is holding an event and the family who owns the celebration will have their rights. Usually, the family will be given a road, the tarub contains various kinds of plants, each of which has meaning. Tarub itself has a symbol of prosperity and hope for new families.